“I do not stammer but have friends who do and have always been aware of
an acute sense of discomfort and helplessness as to what can i do to
help them overcome it especially at that moment when they just get stuck
with a word because i can see the pain and embarassment in their eyes.
Undoubtedly They are talented people but most importantly i care deeply
for them. What can i do? Arent there remedies medical, alternative..
I also want to reiterate thrpugh your blog that though I do not and may
never know how stammerers feel but there are majority of us who do not
ridicule or make fun of them, they NEED to believe that. They are just a
wee bit different 🙂 like myself who wears spectacles because i have a
weak eyesight. Thats all!
Keep up the good work!
Here is what TISA wrote as reply:
Thank you Aradhika, for your sincerity, open-ness, empathy and above
all, concern. Yes, you are right- stammering and many other things
should just be viewed in a broad context of diversity among humans. But
not all humans are at the same level of consciousness, as you are,
unfortunately. So, quite often, the way we look or function, gets
associated with our inner worth. The problem gets further compounded
when a stammerer himself starts believing that! (- that he or she is any
less of a human being just because of the manner of talking..). THIS is
the ultimate tragedy.
But TISA, with the help of people like you is changing all that-
slowly but certainly. You may not believe it but you can do a LOT of
things to help us:
1. Keep writing such emails and notes and
posts on our blog.. Tell us that for every one person who mocks us,
there are 100 like you who do not do so and wish to treat us just like
2. Whenever there is a TISA event in vicinity, join us and share your HONEST feedback and feelings..
3. Practical tips: when you talk to a stammerer, these four things can be very helpful.
– Maintain normal eye contact even when s/he is having lot of difficulties.
– Dont interrupt / interject. Dont guess or complete their words. Let them take their time.
– Slow your own speed of speech a little bit
– Ask for clarification if needed (dont just nod- yes yes- without having understood!).
Can I have your permission to publish your email on our blog?
Thanks once again!
Feel free to get back if you have any more questions..
sachin for TISA