interesting and valid view points in this last CommWS. Let us share
them for the wider benefit of our audience.
“When you talk
about Acceptance, I feel good. When you talk about techniques, my
head begins to burst..”
This coming from a young man, made me
quite happy: he had realized the usefulness of acceptance in day to
day life. Because, even if you become President of America, many
things will go against your wish and you will have to accept them
all the same (like Sandy!).
dont work all the time, why should I waste my time on them?”
have been learning Karate for over ten years. I have practiced
thousands of time thousands of techniques. In actual fight in Dozo I
have used, not more than five, I guess (3 kinds of punch and may be
two kinds of kicks – that’s all). But looking back, I feel all
those hours of practice day after day has not gone waste. It has
shaped my attitude (towards a physical fight), built up my aerobic
stamina and has given me hours and hours of good physical fun.. Can
we look at the “techniques” in the same manner? Not a life
saver- but lot of fun?
“Stammering is not
a big thing. By thinking and talking about it, we make it big.”
true. And if you are 100% convinced of that- both inside and
outside, you may stop coming to a SHG, CommWS and visiting this
blog. But till then, what harm is there in doing so? In fact, you
benefit – by getting used to your own stammering and your
reactions to it in a safe environment. And then, finally a day comes
when you can really believe what you say- and go beyond.
“Everything is fine
here- but once I go back to my office or home, my problems will be
I have been an avid mountaineer and trekker. Whenever I
climb a ridge at 18000 feet, behold the untouched beauty of nature-
mind would say the same: What is the point in climbing to 18000
feet, when you have to go down to sea level, sooner or later? But I
did not stop my solo treks- because those few hours in rarefied
atmosphere was worth months of routine life at sea level. Many
trekkers and other enthusiasts do exactly the same..
“TISA is doing a
wonderful job. Let us contribute Rs x and start a fund to sustain
I demand MORE than that from everyone in TISA. Instead
of money, give your time, your thoughts to people, who are in need.
Whenever and wherever you serve a human being- not necessarily a
stammerer- you have contributed to TISA richly. Dont teach a
technique- just listen to a pws respectfully, patiently and
sensitively. No amount of funds can generate the feeling of
acceptance which you get when you have been heard by another human
being. Can you do it?
What have I learned?
I have learned that even though our stammering may sound the same, it is
generated by vary DIVERSE and complex factors. What works for A, may
not work for B. What works for A now, may not work for him tomorrow.
This is a very complex and RANDOM scenario. No algorithm is going to
help us forecast anything about stammering meaningfully. Therefore, I will encourage
EXPLORATION and sharing. Never give up hope – keep trying and keep
sharing. And keep smiling.After all, life is much much more than a few stumbled words..
I also learned another thing: PWS can laugh about their stammering. Difficult but not impossible. And once they start- it is difficult to stop them! Once they start laughing about this whole thing- they sound lighter, happier, transparent, easy to talk to. I assume that if they continue on this path, their iceberg will melt and the gains will be permanent.
who participated and made it such a rich and rewarding experience for me.