Chennai meeting report on 19.01.2014

Dear all,
The SHG meeting held on 19.01.2014 at
Chennai, were attended by 10 pws. In the beginning of the meeting, each member
was asked to give either speech or sing a song with one condition that he must
stand in a relaxed posture. This experiment was carried out due to my friend’s suggestions
when he attended the last meeting and I have already posted detailed report in
this blog. His observation was that all the pws standing postures were
incorrect and all were standing in an uneasy and  uncomfortable ways.

Then I realized that, apart from one
secondary symptom (this varies from pws to pws), every pws is also straining whole
of his body and could not able to stand in a relaxed posture. My friend also suggested
the following:
1.    Do
not talk about the past stammering. By doing so, pws were reaffirming again and
again to their subconscious mind  that
they were stammerers and could not speak properly. Thus pws were feeding the
above negative thoughts constantly to the subconscious mind , which was already
filled up with so much of negative thoughts. Then, removing negative thoughts
from subconscious mind is either not possible or will take very long time.
2.    He advised
not to use any technique; instead, stand in a relaxed manner and  speak normally. Whenever the pws stammers only,
 he use the techniques and move forward.
3.    He
suggested to treat stammering as simple as possible and not give much
important.
4.    He
has also suggested not to think that stammering is not curable but controllable
only upto 99%. Though he convinced after my explanation, still he insisted that
pws can conquer stammering and always use the word “CONQUER”, which is more
powerful and more energetic word which give more positive impact to all the
pws.
As per my friend’s suggestion, here
aftrewards I have decided to use the word “Conquer” instead of 99% cure. Let’s
conquer our stammering and make this world as ours.

Coming back to the meeting, initially we
made fun of each other, brought the atmosphere lighter and asked everyone to
speak while standing in a relaxed posture.  To everyone surprise, except 2pws, all the
other 8 pws were spoken really well. The lesson learned was, whenever  pws heart becomes lighter, he can speak reasonably
well. We have to find out the ways and means of keeping pws always in a good
mood..
Next, we heard an inspiring recorded
speech of Mr.Andrew Bell, Scotland. He himself  was a pws and invented his own speech therapy,
cured himself and conducting courses for other pws. One pws Mr.’B’ attended the
above course, controlled almost 99% of his stammering and is conducting courses
at Coimbatore . I had attended the course in the year 2001. That time Mr.’B’ had
given a audio CD of Mr.Andrew Bell’s speech to every pws.
The speech is about 30min duration. In
the 1st 15 min, it is about speech therapy. The rest 15 min is a
motivational speech related to stammering which will be very useful  to every pws. I don’t want to go into details
on speech therapy part. The following is the text (Motivation speech part) of
Mr.Andrew bell’s speech. I would like to thank Mr.Ganeh, a member of Chennai
chapter who converted the voice speech into text format.
MR.ANDREW BELL’S SPEECH
Your importance in life must be your new
voice after practicing the technique. By speaking more calmly, you assert your
authority over other people. Also by speaking more calmly, we set standards speech
wise in every situation in which we enters.
You must be the number one person in
your life. Look up to yourself and think more of yourself as a person. No
longer you look up to other person with envy at what they had achieved and can
do. If we admire other people as to what they can achieve, we begin to think of
our own shortcomings and then become bitter and twisted in our outlook upon
life and we diminish our own self importance value. Only when you have become
the number one person in your world, you have the ability to go out into life
and put other people first and foremost.
Feeling so secure within yourself, you
have no reason to try to prove yourself to other people. But have the ability
to be so big hearted that you can draw other people out of their thoughts by
asking them to speak about themselves, by telling them how well we look, by
praising them and by so doing, you make other people feel good and this in turn,
kicks back on you feel good and even more confident and even more secure as a
person.
We must become part of life not stand on
the sideline then watch life happens. Try to seek out situations in which you
can use your new kind of speech and help other people to feel good and to feel
comfortable. This will make you feel more secure and more confident as a person
by simply being involved in life.
Always have good self-presentation,
always look confident, look at it you are a person to be reckoned with no
matter how nervous you may feel, don’t let it show. Always stand tall, sit tall
and walk or act with smooth physical
movements. Do everything with style, act with style, speak with
expressive style. By letting it be seen from how you conduct yourself in life that
you do think something of yourself. You  take a pride in yourself as a person, then you
get respect from other people. But remember you must firstly show that you
respect yourself as a person before other people will give you the level of
respect that you gave to yourself.
Be prepared to speak in your own
individual manner as you are not inconveniencing anyone at all and do not be
tempted to copy the old mode of speech of your own, just as we all walk
differently, different mannerisms in our walk; we all talk differently,
difference mannerisms in our talking; so we not to be afraid to be an
individual. We are all unique. We are individual human beings with unique way
of living, of thinking and of acting. So do not be afraid to stand out in the
crowd and do your things speech wise.  Openly
use the technique. Don’t hide the fact that you are expressing your speech.
Prior to the course, you had no
self-expression in your communicative skill which they were very limited. Now
be prepared to openly express your speech by using full technique until the
technique becomes just your way of speaking and you no longer realize you are
using technique, but you do realize and are aware that you are expressing
yourself as a person in speech to the others. Never let other people back
speech at all.  Do not be influenced by
them. Just let them go completely over your head.
If a question is jumped upon quickly,
use a filler word in order to gather thoughts together. For example, a question
is put to you very rapidly, you can say the word “Right” or “Let me think now”
and that gives you time to maneuver your thought and begin to say what you wish
to say.
You must have full belief that if you
express your speech with your head movements and use this new relax quite
voice. Believe in your head movements and your ability to express the speech,
then you will believe in yourself as a person and your ability to get yourself
over to the other people in life in an efficient, effective and influential
manner so that you become an influential person in life. You become your own
person in your life.
This is Andrew Bell, Thank You.                                                                                                                                                                                                
Lastly
Gnanasekaran gave a very good lecture on “fear of rejection” and “Fear of criticism”
which was really useful one.
Each
meeting we are learning new things. Learning never ends.

That’s
all from Chennai chapter.
Thank you.
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  1. Profile photo of Sachin
    Sachin 4 years ago

    Wow- wonderful..
    So much happened..!
    Congrats to everyone..

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