Acceptance & Fluency!! – I

I don’t really remember how I got introduced to the concept of acceptance but what I do remember is that I looked at it for a LONG time as another technique to achieve 100 % FLUENCY! I thought that once I accept it, I will be fluent. So I did accept! Said to myself one night – Ok I accept my stammer! (I never had any problem with the English word – stammer or stutter, It was Hakla or Haklana that I used to fear 🙂 and I thought may be when I will getup the next morning I will be fluent! But alas, I reached my office and I was still stuttering. I repeated it again and again and again…- I ACCEPT MY STAMMER, but it was not working. I may not be doing it sincerely, is what I thought! So I tried for almost a month trying to repeat it to myself and even giving lecture to other stammerers to accept it 🙂

So even after repeating – “I ACCEPT MY STAMMER” so many times, nothing changed. I was quite surprised. I thought at least it should have helped me partially but nothing changed! It took me a few months to figure out why it was not working. For me it was a concept in head nothing more. I never acted in any way that showed even remotely that I am comfortable with my stammer! So finally when I was forced to start a SHG as there was no active SHG in Pune which I could join, I was made to talk about stuttering and hence started my REAL journey on this path of acceptance! I started posting on the bulletin board of Infosys (the company that I used to work for), inviting other colleagues who stammer to join the SHG that I was starting. And I could FEEL that FINALLY there was a decrease in the heaviness around my life! Finally I felt somewhere deep inside me that it was OK to talk about stammering!

Keep checking out to read more about me and my experiments with acceptance in the next post!

Post Author: Harish Usgaonker

10 thoughts on “Acceptance & Fluency!! – I


    (May 25, 2011 - 5:01 am)

    thank you j.p sir. you also sorted out some problem of mine. many time i also think that i have accepted my stammering but it doesn't seems working as much. talking on stammering and helping others also a way of accepting our own stammering . this thing really makes you with less burden .


    (May 25, 2011 - 5:43 am)

    Years ago, a great man inspired all with My Experiments with Truth….

    I am now looking forward to be inspired from- My Experiments with Acceptance

    Waiting for your next post…


    (May 25, 2011 - 11:36 am)

    Yes, JP. Acceptance is a journey, an attitude. Not a product or a destination. It is a part of a wider acceptance of life, as it is. Acceptance of this moment. Since you are in tune with Eckhart, you will appreciate the difference..
    (PS: ofcousre acceptance of this moment does not absolve us of the role which we are to play in that moment.. No running away in any disguise)


    (May 25, 2011 - 6:10 pm)

    i am looking forward for your next post……..

    well JP,is there any full-fledged workshop is in pipeline shortly??

    May be within a month or so…?


    (May 26, 2011 - 9:44 am)

    nice write jp..inspiring and motivating …………..old and same story of acceptance,i also used same play with my acceptance


    (May 26, 2011 - 12:08 pm)

    Dear Ashish,

    Keep checking our blog regularly to know the exact dates for Chandigarh workshop. We are in process of finalising the dates and venue!



    (May 26, 2011 - 5:38 pm)

    Dear JP,

    thanx for the reply.

    I would love to attend it.

    Vaibhav T

    (May 27, 2011 - 4:58 pm)

    Dear JP/Sachin sir

    Can we organize any workshop in Mumbai also ? So Mumbaikar can take some advantages.


    (May 29, 2011 - 2:54 pm)

    Whenever we have 10 participants who r ready to pay for the facilitators travel, bode and lodge! So go ahead and search for 10 people in mumbai or who r ready to attend the workshop in mumbai!

    Vaibhav T

    (May 29, 2011 - 4:10 pm)

    Dear Jp

    I will try to Contact PWS in mumbai and let u know.

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