is headed by a very loving and kind realized Saint. I thought that everyone who
came to this ashram must have been enveloped by his love and hospitality. But
to be sure- I did ask one of the inmates one day: Has anyone ever been turned
out by Swami ji from this ashram?
happily for days on end, was told by Swami ji: Catch the first bus to
Vikasnagar and GO HOME! On deeper analysis of this paradox, I understood
something: Many of us join a church or a sect or a spiritual movement and think
that “I will be OK now”. We stop putting any further effort. We don’t do
sadhana (Jap, Meditation etc.). We neither serve our family members. Nor do we
put any effort in earning money, doing any meaningful effort in society. We are
like a ship, which lifts anchor, sails out of the port, and then drops the
anchor again and forgets all about further journey! (Dhobi ka kutta- na ghar ka, na ghat ka– as the proverb goes:
Neither here, nor there).
But in our own mind- we are sure that we are doing
FINE. But the fact is we are walking on thin ice. Any moment it may give way
and we may slip below to our death. These thoughts came to me, when I listened to a young pws
friend, who was facing difficulties. I realized that similar things are
happening to many pws AFTER joining TISA! They are neither going for formal
speech therapy, nor are they pursuing self therapy as advocated by TISA, on its
website, blog and in its self-help manual. They have attended one Communication
workshop of may be three days in 2008, one SHG meeting in 2009, wrote couple of
posts on TISA blog in 2010, left a comment on TISA facebook in 2011… that is
ALL- and they think they are doing fine! They are walking on very THIN ICE! They
just have to appear for one job interview, for their complacence to be
A pws who tries some path, therapy or technique
is BETTER than the pws who is sitting down, feeling bad but doing nothing. It
is better to attempt and FAIL, then to do nothing.
Every one’s stammering is being driven by
different reasons- so, if one technique or path does not work for you, TRY
If you can afford and access, go for Formal
speech therapy. Government hospitals are recommended because of their
transparent and affordable fee structure. But you are FREE in this matter. TISA
has not legislated any LAW about it.
Where formal therapy faces so many difficulties
in transferring speech skills, learned in the clinic to the outside world,
SELF-THERAPY should not be considered as an easy short-cut. All that needs to
be done in the name of self therapy, is laid out in the self help manual.
Unless you don’t do all those things, you are fooling yourself.
Self – help works and there are enough proof
around in the form of satisfied practitioners like, Manimaran, Dinesh, Rajesh,
JP, Lalit, Pramendra, Jasbir Sandhu, myself and MANY more across the country.
YET, TISA being a self help association gives no implied or express warranty of
CURE. We only promote inner healing, wholeness and better communication skills.
Some have benefited by Vipassana, some by Brahma
vidya, some by running a SHG, some by writing in public domain, some by “teaching”
others, some by some techniques. There is no objective method to predict, who
will benefit by which method or approach. This can be found out only by trying
methods SINCERELY. This is why TISA encourages exploration of a wide variety of
get up and do something. We are here as “coaches” and friends to help you, share whatever we know – but YOU must do, what has to be done. Whatever you do, will strengthen you from inside, your
will power. And keep sharing your experiments, your learning, your wisdom-
because you are the EXPERT on your life, your problem solving. You have all the
POWER inside you to help yourself. TISA wishes you all the success.