four SHGs. We spoke both to participants and the organizers. We are sharing the
gist of the findings here, so that we as a self-help community can give our
best in 2014 and beyond. Item 1-4 are from SHG coordinators and item 5 is based on feedback from SHG participants. (We have put in our editorial comments in parentheses. Ed). Read on, reflect, have fun and go to SHG this sunday…
1. What has
by one or more of these facts:
been through the long futile search for that “best therapy” which will cure
them once for all, in a few weeks. They had understood that consistently
working on communication skills in a social setting is the way forward for
empathize with other pws, their inner suffering and sincerely wanted to serve
first time, offered them a place where they felt free, accepted and relaxed;
where stammering was not a stigma.
their overall confidence as good, effective human beings.
2. How does SHG
NOT stammering – it is lack of communication and lack of understanding of the
nuances of stuttering. SHG plays a very big role in addressing these very roots
of all suffering and ignorance.
the world of SHG, lot of emotional baggage is lost as we find similar people
and accept that we are normal too and not aliens. This brings a sense of inner
peacefulness and satisfaction with ourselves, no matter how we speak.
listen to us, not with sympathy but with total understanding is what we need
and there is no better place than SHG to find such true friends.
I can do it too..
that stutterer is not meant for this job or that job.
stutters courageously facing the world and doing everything despite all odds.
Therefore the mindset that stuttering is a handicap is removed effortlessly.
out to station and buying ticket in a group) are helping us (the organisers) too.
from the participants?
least three months at a stretch!! Dont wait for organiser’s phone call or SMS.
Time and venue are always posted on blog and FB in advance. Consistent and
dedicated participation in SHG activities is important to derive ANY benefit at
you cant come, feel free to say so. If you commit, then please try and come.
Please do answer our SMS or call which are used sometimes before the meeting.
through the week, so that you can spare just two hours on the weekend for SHG –
in your own larger interest and also to ensure that others too benefit from
your presence and your inputs. Give and take is the foundation of life.
pws in all possible ways:
Maintain eye contact
Dont take up their allotted time by telling long personal stories or
Give them positive feedback, whenever possible.
Listen to them attentively.
NEVER give unasked advice or feedback.
instructions for the session, be serious about what technique we use in the
meeting as per Agenda and be patient to follow those techniques, at least in
the meeting. At other times, you are fee to use your own technique or speech
goals. Bring a diary and pen, if requested.
dependent on participation of a particular senior member. Every host has
different approach; you can get different good things from different hosts.
Come and participate without bothering about who else is there or not there.
structure and agenda in the meetings; responsibility to conduct a session should
be rotated. We can create a SHG group on Facebook by which who wants to host
the meeting can give notification OR you
can leave a comment under the blog post stating that you would like to
facilitate it. After that, you MUST closely work with the organizer/
Coordinator to plan and rehearse the proposed meeting in ADVANCE. Please don’t come
unprepared, to conduct a session.
masters kind of meeting, lasting 4-5 hours, once in two months or so.
Participants should contribute a little fee for this.
meeting in which we can go to any malls or any place in our city and there we
can have fun like party, movie etc. once in 2 month or so.
SHGs should innovate,
develop a plan and stick to it. Like this.
(SHGs are free to develop their own roadmap under the overall mandate of
Invite your friends and
family members too, to SHG. This will solve some of your problems back home.
recruit and invite new pws to the SHG, so that good group dynamics unfolds and
new pws also benefit.
Some new innovative exercises
should be offered in every session. (But let us remember: to master ANY
technique, you must repeat it many many times, even for months, in a recommended
order and in a hierarchy of situations. Ed).
We need some time for one
to one counseling too. (It can be difficult in a 2 hour session but this can
happen on phone/ skype during the week etc ed.)
How do we know we are
progressing? (TISA has many members who will confirm that regular participation
in SHG benefits. But since stammering is very situational and variable- it will
be meaningless for anyone or TISA to assess and certify your improvement; It is
you, who is the best judge to answer – are you more comfortable with yourself
generally, and specifically while talking in a group or with strangers? Journal
writing too is a good way of tracking your progress in the long run. ed.)
I am not able to attend regularly. Need flexible timings. (What benefits people
in a SHG is the group dynamics; their ability to make presentation in presence
of a GROUP of people. If we are not able to get together in a number of ten to
fifteen people, once a week, we not only forego our own benefits, we also rob
other participants of their benefits resulting from this group dynamics.
Therefore SHGs can accommodate individual needs only to a limited extent
unfortunately. On the other hand, if timings are a big constraint, you can attend
online SHG, whenever you miss the physical SHG. But the onus to help yourself
in a CONSISTENT manner rests with YOU alone. ed.)
practice PRACTICAL skills (communication) in social situations – much more than
picking up INFORMATION about stammering. For information, internet is a more
effective resource. Learning one technique and mastering it under different challenging
situations in and outside SHG is much more useful than learning theory of a new
technique every week and using it casually. Finally it is your SHG. You can improve it thru participation. Go for it.