the week had begun. I was right on time, very energetic to attend the today’s
SHG meeting, with a firm intuition that something good is going to happen today J
person narration, since the same page would go into my daily journal (OOOHHHH
yes, i am trying to make amends with my past and have started writing, yay!)
was 09:50 am and surprisingly i could see 7-8 people sitting under the big hut. We didn’t
realize that till 10 am, 90% of the crowd had gathered at the hut. If i go down
the memory lane, it was the first “on the time” meeting!
meeting: Me (Mansi), Swarnalatha, Prathibha, Janani, Jonali, Dinesh (Sir!), Teja
(SuperTeja!), Nishil, Anshuman, Mohit, Sidharth, Hari Krishna, Rajesh, Pramod,
Bharat, Anita, Faruque and Sudhanshu. It was good to see a lot of new faces and
a few familiar faces after a long time. It was kinda grand one.
All of us voluntarily came up and introduced ourselves. Most of us talked about
what we did in last week or about our new year celebrations/resolutions. I
learned that a lot of people apart from me are crazy about Sherlock (no doubt
Benedict Cumberbatch makes us that way!).
Few of us discussed about the books we read or movies we watched. The
session ended well with Dinesh’s inspiration: Chota Bheem. So far so good!
most brutal “Monkey Man” in our lives- Stammering. The topic was-
what all we lost because of stammering. So most of us discussed about our
school memories, facing rejections in job interviews, failures in personal
relationships and marriage, loss of self-esteem and loss of confidence. Well according to me, we all are in a same boat
when it comes to stammering. We all have lost too much because of stammering. I
myself cleared all the 15 entrances i gave and failed 14 interviews before i
actually stepped into PhD. We all have painful memories, rejections both on
personal and professional front, which have made us the way we are. But the truth always remain hidden, which is: WE ARE MUCH
STRONGER THAN WE ACTUALLY THINK WE ARE, WE JUST NEED TO THINK FROM A DIFFERENT
PERSPECTIVE. Dinesh illustrated it in a way that motivated all of us – ”
We should focus on what all barriers of success we need to cross apart from
fluency- these barriers include the following these traits- confidence,
knowledge, attitude towards failure and so on.” We concluded well by having a poll: Is stammering “one of the cause” or “the cause” of our failures? Most of us voted for: Stammering is one of the cause of our failures. Dinesh summarized by stating that if we focus on the other causes of our failures then things might get a little easy.
meeting, we helped Anshuman prepare for this US visa interview and wished him
good luck: “Ja, jee le apni zindagi”.
ever speech on EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. The talk started with questions about
defining EI. Few of us explained it in a clear manner. Mohit then focussed on
the components of EI, i.e. self
awareness, Motivation, empathy, self-regulation and social skills. Every
sentence of his talk lead towards a step deeper into self realization. I feel
everyone of us registered a lot into our accounts while listening. One interesting question was raised: how to handle over emotional people or people who cry too much? The answers varied according to varying scenarios such as- if a person is genuinely hurt or just seeking attention. On a lighter note, i would like to mention that crying is purely a biochemical process, and noone can do anything about it. For me, the talk
ended with N number of questions- which i hope to answer in a long run. Is it
for real that a person with high Emotional Quotient (EQ) does not go into
depression? Can a person actually have an EQ high enough to help others/solve
other’s problems but still be really emotional to solve his/her problems? Is it
possible that a person who seems to have a good EQ take people’s demerits into
account while judging them? Intense questions to think upon.
about orphan kids and how they battle with their emotions throughout their
lives with noone to talk to. Oh it was
an “emotional gyan” which i cant even remember as of now. Later, we
discussed about our plans to visit RUVA foundation, an orphanage and gift them
“SMILES”. We terminated the meeting with Teja’s hometown sweets: sugar
coated Gulab Jamun and a groupie.
meeting, we are planning to visit RUVA foundation as an activity in next SHG i.e. on Jan 17, 2016 from 11:30 am to
3:30 pm. Those of you (apart from today’s members) who wants to accompany us
can contact: Teja (9966345829) or Pramod (8880306060). Suggestions
about activity planning are most welcome.