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Let’s go home, then. If you stammer, like us, your life must have been a SEARCH. An unending journey, looking for something, someone, which will make you whole. Some treatment, some course, some belief. But who can give us that feeling, that vision, that we are OK – not a defective piece on a conveyor belt? Like Kasturi Deer, we have to return to source one day, trailing the scent, emanating from our own soul. This part of journey can be called HOME coming. We welcome you home!

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(From Prakhar Sachan, 2006)

What if I wasn’t a stutterer?

This question, and other like questions, time and time again seem to surface to the fore of a stutterers’ mind. I have been no exception.

I started stuttering as a child. With no family history of stuttering, it was hard for everyone to relate to my stuttering. Stating the obvious, a search for “cure” proved to be futile. Somehow stuttering wasn’t an issue in my early school days. I used to stutter mildly and contextually (as far as I can remember), and stuttering still hadn’t seeped into my psyche. As such, the typical stuttering mindset and the emotional baggage that goes along with it were non-existent. But, it all seemed to change when I was in middle school. I was made to feel different, because I didn’t speak in the normal way. As an instance, my peers found it intriguing and sometimes amusing, why I took so long to say my name. I could very well have been labeled retarded, but as I did well academically, they were always confused and questions such as “why do you speak that way?” became common place. By the time I was in high school, my stuttering became severe. Really bad. I couldn’t even answer the roll calls (my name included), forget about participating in plays and elocution periods which were compulsory; as they said it was essential for personality development.

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क्या आप हकलाते हैं?

We have had a funny love-hate relationships with Movies! With King’s Speech, a change is coming over the society. In India, some good movies have been made on stammering. This movie by Ranjith Shankar (inspired by our own Sudhi from Bangalore) will easily win Oscars from us in TISA. (Review, more). Let us know if you found a movie which portrays stammering and other diversities in a creative and positive way.

Review of Kaabil by Anurag Mishra

Arpit

The unnecessary hair that you have is not adding to your beauty. You better use this hair removal cream to remove the hair that makes you look more natural but makes you a social misfit. And yeah, make sure to apply that cream that makes your underarm skin fair… (Read on)

Aaja Mere Raja 🙂

Let’s Play

THEATER is known to help many of us for a variety of reasons; Animesh of Banglore SHG is facilitating a complete experience, covering script development, basic voice and acting skills etc. He plans to finalize the scripts by 12th March;  finalizing actors and character they play by 15th/16th March and Rehearsals by April end or mid-May 2017. Then, it will be time for curtains and spot lights! If you are anywhere close to Banglore, do get in touch with Banglore SHG. Dont discount yourself. Since birth, we have done nothing but acting! Haven’t we? (Check more, for what this SHG has been up to!)

Do you think, you have failed Interviews just because you stammer? You guess your boss knows about your stammering but you yourself have never talked about it in your office, have you? You have never told your colleagues about TISA? You have never displayed the memento or the group photo from the last NC at your office table?

Aha, no wonder, you feel uncomfortable in your office! And that affects your communication in the office where you spend 8+ hours everyday. On the other hand, what can a company or manager do, to get the best out of her/his team members, who may happen to stammer besides being excellent SEO experts? Because productivity is a team effort, is it not? To learn more about this aspect of our work life, read on these links from our own Abhinav (Banglore SHG). (link 1)

Is stammering a “speech” disorder, a diversity (different manner of talking) or oppression – 99% telling the 1% how to speak? This is a very interesting debate, which has intensified in recent years, as more and more pws with a background in SOCIAL sciences have joined the discussion. Earlier, the scene was dominated by SLPs and the discussion was limited to techniques, relapse and research methodology alone.

If we recall our childhood, many of us will remember that we personally had no problem with our manner of talking. It was others who kept on reminding that something is wrong and “YOU” have to do something about it. They had no clue that they too had a role to play as listeners. Many of us were literally bullied into therapy – if the family could afford it.

It was like a child from a village, who was being manipulated or forced to learn English, so that s/he will have a “Bright future”! This points to the politics of stammering and therapy. This was captured well in these lines in a review recently: ” there is a psychological cost in striving for normalcy, and that SLPs are often complicit in creating the desire to be normal within stutterers…”

If you are interested in exploring this dimension of your life, please check these resources. Let me warn you at the outset: the ideas are RADICAL and presume that you have some grounding in social sciences. Give it a try – you have nothing to lose- except shame, fear and guilt.

Articles which analyse assumptions behind speech therapy ( I have quoted from, above)..

An interesting discussion: Is it possible to have speech therapy that doesn’t also teach there is something wrong with your voice that needs to be fixed?

Happy reading and exploring!

Aha NC time again! The magic time! But let me not go on a hype! It is easy to fall in a mass hysteria and go on a ‘high’ – to come down with a thud, a few days later! Instead, let me begin with the reasons why you should NOT come to NC. You should not come – if you are looking for a cure; if all you want is to learn a technique to speak better; if you are coming just because your bum chums, Pappu and Golu are also coming; if you are coming just because you want to get away from ‘nagging’ elders, impossible neighbors, demanding teachers etc.; if you are coming only because your GF (or BF, as the case may be) has banned you from their FB page (alas!); if you think Chandigarh is a ‘cool’ city and squeezing in a side trip to Shimla or Kasauli will be such a cool idea… if that is the only motive, Don’t come!

Friends, you SHOULD come if you are not ashamed of your stammering, if you think meeting other stammerers can be a rich experience; if you think stammerers can offer some useful insights into LIFE and its deep lessons; Come if you think life is much more than stammering; if you think honoring another pws by listening to her/him is better than giving them truckloads of advice. Come, if you believe that you have something important to share, no matter how much you stammer. Come, if you respect and honor yourself despite ALL the bad things stammering may have done to you…

If you do join this Kumbh mela of stuttering saints, please check out these links from the past NCs; They give you some idea, as to what you can expect.

“There was a lot which I learnt from the members of the NC, be it becoming besharam from Suresh or learning to accept yourself as Virendra…” (Shobhit)

“At the same time whatever effort we put if we are able to change life of one person then TISA is successful. I feel we did change life of more than one !!!..” (Virendra)

“In NC,I met many experienced and well settled people. I was always having thinking that I can’t do anything in my life due to stammering but after meeting those people my mind set have got changed in a positive way and I decided to work more hard towards my goal…” (Bhawna)

“जीवन में पहली बार मैंने किसी से अंग्रेजी में इतनी लम्बी बातचीत किया था। सीख यही मिली कि हकलाहट और भाषा संचार में बाधक हो ही नहीं सकती। भले ही आपको हिन्दी, अंग्रेजी या किसी अन्य विदेशी भाषा का ज्ञान कम हो, फिर भी आप कोशिश करें तो सफल संचार/संवाद कर सकते हैं।“ (Amit, feedback )

“कालेज ज्वाइन करने के कुछ दिनों बाद उत्कर्ष ने मुझे फोन पर बताया कि वह हकलाता है और इस कारण बी.टेक. छोडना चाहता है। मैंने उससे कहा कि 2,50,000 रूपए फीस के जमा किए हैं उसका क्या होगा? “    (Utkarsh)

“मैं संयुक्त राज्य अमेरिका से हूं। कहने को तो हकलाने वाली महिलाओं की सुख्या पुरूषों की तुलना में काफी कम है, लेकिन चुनौतियां ढेरों हैं। भारत में आकर इस एन.सी. में मैंने देखा कि इतनी कम संख्या में हकलाने वाली युवतियां आई हुई हैं।..” (Jacqueline)

If you still have questions, get in touch with us…

Three Steps & Jump!

This website is a travelogue of our journey which began sometime in 2007 with the publication of Twelve Questions, a primer in Hindi and English on stammering for Indian audience. (-  Or maybe even earlier!). This inner journey consists of three steps and a mighty leap of faith! You too are welcome to join. Read on..

The first step is accepting upfront that I am facing a problem, that I stammer – no less, no more. Discovering that you alone can help yourself – but by helping others: this is the second step. Third step is going to the heart of the stammering riddle: Communication! Like everyone else under the sun, we the stammerers, also have to practice and hone our communication skills. What better place to practice it, than in the company of one another? Yes, self-help groups, physical and virtual, constitute a major evolutionary strategy in our search for healing, wholeness and inner acceptance.

And now comes the final and the longest bungee jump, for those who have stumbled their way to the “cliff”: If I am not my stammering, nor my fluency, then who am I? to what purpose was I given this life experience?

We do not offer answers. We only walk with you- in solidarity. Your quest is ours too. And believe us, it is a long journey- but fun, when undertaken with like-minded people.

TISA is an association of Indian people who stammer (IPWS). Its purpose is to collect and disseminate relevant, correct and unbiased information for people who stammer and their families, friends and society. It is a self help movement, where PWS learn to help each other and themselves in the ancient Indian spirit: “This Self is to be achieved through self-effort!” Further, the reason for TISA to exist is to redefine the moment of “stammering”, its meaning and reclaim words like stammerer (hakla). We want to change the rules of the game itself – nothing less.

OUR HISTORY SO FAR

Register for TISA 7th NC

Each one of us has a voice. We have things in our heart that we want to express. People who have difficulty expressing themselves verbally, even they desire to be accepted and given opportunities to share their voice. (Read on)

LLLLucknow Report!

Manglore Workshop In News

Nature of Stammering

If you want your book listed here, share with us!

Unblock Your Wisdom – a deep look at the mystery moment (BLOCK) and what it could do for us! “….Unless we completely understand our stammering , we can’t overcome it and we can deeply understand why the block occur , only after entering in it and reviewing it by ourselves by being in present moment …”

 From the Shadows of the mountains :   Devika – a biography : A life straddling disability and discrimination based on gender and social roots. An excerpt from the ebook:

As soon as she became pregnant, she was told -” It better be a boy. I want a boy.”
Devika said, ” What if it is a girl?”
“I don’t know. I just told you- I want a boy.”
Devika knew now that her unborn child was in serious trouble…

Embrace it!

YOU CHANGE BY DOING

Not by “thinking” or “knowing”! Please browse around; Check “If You Stammer” page above; You may register and leave behind a post on our blog. Share about yourself and your journey. Feel free to join a self help group in your area – OR start a new one. Here is a broader list. Fire off an email to info@stammer.in. One of us will get in touch. Whatever! Just don’t give up! You have reached home – finally! If you want to “test waters” check out our online sessions below:
Google Hangouts,  Skype Calls

Humor Helps?

Yes, if it is coming from a place of acceptance, strength and celebration. Can you laugh at your own blocks? Can you laugh at funny situations caused by stammering in YOUR life? Then, you can rapidly move on and become a good communicator and a genuine & social person!

Brute Force!

बैठक में एक सदस्य ने सलाह दी कि हमें वैकल्पिक शब्दों का उपयोग नहीं करना चाहिए। सीधे कठिन शब्दों या वाक्यों का सामना करें, उन्हें बोलने का प्रयास करें और संचार पर ध्यान दें, हकलाहट पर नहीं। (आगे पढ़िए)

काले रंग कि टी-शर्ट में कुछ व्यक्ति २ लोगों से बात कर रहे हैं, शायद उनसे कुछ सवाल कर रहे| एक के हाथ में कुछ पम्फ्लेट्स हैं! अब ये वहां से आगे बढ़ गए, अब ये लोग दूसरों से बात करने लगे| लेकिन इनकी टी-शर्ट पे  TISA लिखा है, ये क्या है, रुको टी-शर्ट कि बैक पे शायद इनका टैग लाइन लिखा है, हकलाओ मगर प्यार से |अब  ये क्या है.. (आगे जानें)

यह कार्यशाला इसलिए सफल है क्योंकि यह हकलाहट को क्योर करने का झूठा दावा नहीं करती। यह मंच हमें सच का सामना करने की प्रेरणा देता है। दिल्ली कार्यशाला रिपोर्ट

HOW DO WE WORK

We sensitise and orient people who stammer through free Communication workshops, online interactions and self help group sessions. Get-togethers and National conferences help you build social network, friendships and support groups. We do not offer “Therapy”. We offer friendship instead! We believe that LIFE can be lived fully, before “cure” (if there was one!); that sincere communication is more important than “fluency” in the long run. Finally, we believe that stammerers can be served better, if stammering was seen as a diversity rather than a disorder!

Random Acts

Have you ever helped a stranger? Did you remember the nice feeling? Yes, ages of pain, sadness, feelings of not being “good enough” – all this can be blasted away with just one gelatin stick: going out of your way and helping someone who may never be able to pay back. A stranger. You don’t have to give them Tazmahal – just a little help: tell them the address they are looking for, a glass of water or tea, offer them a seat, carry their grocery bag, teach a child Maths/ English, help with home-work, give away your old clothes, offer a meal to a poor man- anything. The royal toad to RECOVERY! Try it today.  Read more

कार्यशाला में आए एक वरिष्ठ नागरिक ने कहा- यहां आकर मेरी आंखें खुल गईं। बहुत ही अद्भुत तकनीकों का अभ्यास किया गया और 60 वर्ष की मेरी हकलाहट वाली जिन्दगी में ऐसा अवसर पहली बार था जब मैंने खुलकर आनन्द महसूस किया। अपने विचारों को सकारात्मक बनाए रखना, हकलहट को स्वीकार करना, पारदर्शिता और स्वयं सहायता आदि प्रयोगों को तीसा ने विकसित किया है। यह वाकई अनोखा कार्य है। (आगे पढ़ें)

HOW TO JOIN

No formalities. Just start by participating in our events, our SHGs. Your stammering is your Platinum member card. Dont hesitate to show it. Write a post about it. Put up a youtube video about what you think about stammering (not what you were told!)- and share the link with us. This is how you volunteer – by participating! You are welcome to start a self help group, near your home, where you work or online. If you have other ideas let us know. But self help group is a good place to learn about TISA, and yourself – and also how you can help other pws and this movement. Read on..

Vipassna?

I sometime hold my breath- and then, explode! How do I know when I am going to hold my breath? Many pws have asked such questions. Breath awareness is a special skill. It requires turning attention inwards; being alert and relaxed at the same time. It needs some practice and some instruction. A ten day Vipassana course is highly recommended. It is free. Its usefulness goes FAAAAR beyond stammering and communication. If you have tried all kinds of therapy and Intensive programs and have not benefited in the long run- it is time to check this “systems” approach to personal change and a lot more. Here are some testimonies to prepare you and inspire you: From Tanveer, Pramendra Bundela, Dr Mansi. Get back after the course and share your insights with us.

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