Bangalore SHG 13th March ’16 : Friends forever and not mere survivors

Today was an exceptional meeting in Bangalore for TISA . It was lager than life and much larger than just stammering per se . It was no longer a bunch of people who had issues in expressing but
a gang of friends who were all out pore their hearts out and live for the day. There was such infectious environment of sharing and support that for a moment it seemed that we were in a happiness or a lifestyle workshop rather than being in a Stammering support group.

I would like for represent the report in a different manner like with some poetry  and bottom approach .

कोशिश करने वालों की

लहरों से डर कर नौका पार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।
नन्हीं चींटी जब दाना लेकर चलती है,
चढ़ती दीवारों पर, सौ बार फिसलती है।
मन का विश्वास रगों में साहस भरता है,
चढ़कर गिरना, गिरकर चढ़ना न अखरता है।
आख़िर उसकी मेहनत बेकार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।
डुबकियां सिंधु में गोताखोर लगाता है,
जा जा कर खाली हाथ लौटकर आता है।
मिलते नहीं सहज ही मोती गहरे पानी में,
बढ़ता दुगना उत्साह इसी हैरानी में।
मुट्ठी उसकी खाली हर बार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।
असफलता एक चुनौती है, इसे स्वीकार करो,
क्या कमी रह गई, देखो और सुधार करो।
जब तक न सफल हो, नींद चैन को त्यागो तुम,
संघर्ष का मैदान छोड़ कर मत भागो तुम।
कुछ किये बिना ही जय जय कार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।
–हरिवंशराय बच्चन

 We found somethings really good in this SHG meetings

1. Extempore round was really challenging and was giving even good speakers a hard time for which credit goes to Mohit who was coordinating today
2. GD Topic was very relevant “How effective is Acceptance in healing stammering” and everyone was given time and was supposed to speak their mind out.
   And believe me truly unbelievable ideas came out which made a lot of sense

Below is the gist without mentioning who said what about Acceptance .I believe that since we are a team our views and ideas belong to all of us.

1.Stutters think about stammering day and night. There is life beyond
it.
2.teaching kids from poorer backgrounds will make a lot of difference
3.Acceptance is two kinds: One that we have accepted that we stutter and we will not improve .The other kind being that we accept that we stammer but we want to do something about it
4.There is lot of emotional quotient in us we have to take care of specially when there is lack of support or there are below the belt comments from peers
5.Acceptance help us a lot in getting control of the situation while we stammer .The thoughts which come to us during , after and while we stutter can we passed we effectively dealt with by doing friendship with our thoughts and not opposing them in first place at all
6.Along with acceptance hard work is needed to counter and overcome our stammer
7.The ultimate goal is not to cure stammering but on the other hand being a good communicator(listening included)
8.Getting out of comfort zone is very important
9.Sleep of 7 hours is very important everyone
10.Getting to the epicenter of problem is very important
11.Acceptance should not give rise to complacence but to more hard work and perseverance
12.Exercise and workout will help breathing so will the breathing exercises 
13.More we speak better it will be