We have a lot of talk about acceptance. Tisa says we have to
work on acceptance first before adopting any stammering management technique. But
most of the pws are always confuse how they can work on their acceptance. They think
that talking on stammering with family and some close friends are enough to
accept our stammering. Yes, it helps but not enough. We have to increase our
level of challenges and level of acceptance too. We still have fear to accept
or talk on stammering with our colleagues, high authority persons, professors
or teachers. Our mind still thinks that it is not a good topic to discuss with good
person. Most of the pws (including me) thinks that we have to work on
acceptance but how? We can’t bore the people with our individual problem. People
might think that this person has the problem and only he has to deal with it,
why he wants to include us with his problem. Yes, it is right. We can’t bore
the people without their own interest. But what is the need of hide our problem.
If we speak or bounce in front of a person then we simply get an opportunity to
work on acceptance. We can directly say to him/her with a proud, yes I stammer
sometimes. Hope you will not have a problem with my way of speaking. If you
have then tell me what.
work on acceptance first before adopting any stammering management technique. But
most of the pws are always confuse how they can work on their acceptance. They think
that talking on stammering with family and some close friends are enough to
accept our stammering. Yes, it helps but not enough. We have to increase our
level of challenges and level of acceptance too. We still have fear to accept
or talk on stammering with our colleagues, high authority persons, professors
or teachers. Our mind still thinks that it is not a good topic to discuss with good
person. Most of the pws (including me) thinks that we have to work on
acceptance but how? We can’t bore the people with our individual problem. People
might think that this person has the problem and only he has to deal with it,
why he wants to include us with his problem. Yes, it is right. We can’t bore
the people without their own interest. But what is the need of hide our problem.
If we speak or bounce in front of a person then we simply get an opportunity to
work on acceptance. We can directly say to him/her with a proud, yes I stammer
sometimes. Hope you will not have a problem with my way of speaking. If you
have then tell me what.
My experiment with acceptance
Few days before, I was making a call to customer care. An idea
came that it can be a good opportunity to work on acceptance. I do some voluntary
stammering on asking some question to representative. He said “sir, there is
some network problem and your voice is fluctuating.” I said ”no, it is not a
network problem; it is problem with my speech. I am a person who stutters.” Then
he said “ok sir, not an issue. Say I am listening”. It was great fun with
speech therapy.
came that it can be a good opportunity to work on acceptance. I do some voluntary
stammering on asking some question to representative. He said “sir, there is
some network problem and your voice is fluctuating.” I said ”no, it is not a
network problem; it is problem with my speech. I am a person who stutters.” Then
he said “ok sir, not an issue. Say I am listening”. It was great fun with
speech therapy.
And one time I was reading newspaper. There was a classified
of matrimonial in paper. I got an idea and made a call to a groom searching
party. I told them in a stutter manner that I found your advertisement in paper
and what type of groom you need. They told their priorities then I told mine. I
said” yes, groom has all the things you need but one defect also. He stutters.”
They cut the call immediately and I can’t stop myself without a laugh.
of matrimonial in paper. I got an idea and made a call to a groom searching
party. I told them in a stutter manner that I found your advertisement in paper
and what type of groom you need. They told their priorities then I told mine. I
said” yes, groom has all the things you need but one defect also. He stutters.”
They cut the call immediately and I can’t stop myself without a laugh.
Some other things we can do with our speech like little
bounce by knowingly to the friend that knows our problem. Asking time and
places to the unknown stranger etc.etc. Who says it is necessary to speak
fluent always?
bounce by knowingly to the friend that knows our problem. Asking time and
places to the unknown stranger etc.etc. Who says it is necessary to speak
fluent always?
I write
this post in some hurry because I have to do some packing to go to home next
morning in this festival month. If I had some mistakes then don’t mind it. I
will be Happy if your leave your comments or have to ask some questions.
7 thoughts on “HOW TO STRONG OUR ACCEPTANCE”
Sachin
(October 4, 2011 - 5:16 pm)Great! Lage raho…
admin
(October 4, 2011 - 5:46 pm)Matrimonial idea is good! 🙂
admin
(October 5, 2011 - 5:03 am)umesh ..wounder full post on acceptence…u defined acceptence in lay man language , easy to understand and practice in life….keep writing
sikander
(October 5, 2011 - 1:18 pm)Hi Umesh
Wonderful experiment. really impressed by your metrimonial idea. I really wish, they would have accepted the stammerer guy so that we could have attended your marriage.
Keep doing the experiment.We are really learning from your experience.
admin
(October 6, 2011 - 2:37 am)welldone chite welldone……aise hi karte raho sir. acceptance pe mai sirf itna kahna chaunga ki……….
MITA DE KUDH KI HASTI KO GAR KUCH MARTBA CHAYE.
KI DANA KHAK ME MILKAR GUL AE GULJAR HOTA HAI.
Sachin
(October 6, 2011 - 7:11 am)@Abhishek
Marhaba, marhaba, marhaba…
(Dont ask me meaning!)
Sachin
(October 7, 2011 - 2:35 pm)Umesh- this reminds me of Gandhi Ji's "My experiments with Truth"..
May be fluent people will strongly object to this comparison and while shouting me down vehemently, many of them will stammer too, out of sheer anger and disgust…
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