First Write then Talk

The session on
this Saturday was like no other; our coordinator began explaining us the
importance of writing our thoughts before expressing them. When what we want to
communicate is clear within our brain, then half the battle is won.

The process of
speaking involves 3 major steps
1)     Gather your thoughts -> 2) articulate -> 3)
delivery.

We forget
about the first 2 steps and worry only about the 3rd step –
worsening the situation/problem.

Nervousness is always
50% due to lack of preparation and other 50% is due to Delivery style.

Lack of preparation is
what we can control. We should never worry about what we cannot control

The best tip
is to always jot down what you want to say on a piece of paper and keep that paper
with you it works like magic.

We began the
session with self-introduction, but this time we prepared our introduction, we
first wrote about ourselves on piece of paper and then had ample time to
reflect upon our thoughts and to mentally prepare on what to say and how to
say.

First to go
was Abhinav, he did well today he was oozing with confidence and handled stage
very well, he is slowly getting rid of his secondary symptoms, although fillers
could have been avoided, but all in all a good show by him.

Jeetu was
second in line, he was known to finish his introduction soon and with a barely
audible voice but since we had prepared our introductions, jeetu felt confident
and elaborated on this introduction and his voice was more than audible.

Upasana was next
to go, she was new in our meeting but she felt comfortable and she came with
such hope that her speech was effortless, she was smiling all along her speech
which made her and audience at ease.

Tanoy our
Bengali babu was fourth in line; he covered all the points effectively, I guess
in this session the self-belief was so high that everyone felt invincible when
on stage.

Chandan was on
stage and did he set it on fire, he gave his speech and was only person not to
use any fillers or helping words, he stuttered but with style. He was calm in
his thoughts and that reflected in his speech.

Biju an
experienced toastmasters club member followed next on to the stage, he crafted
his speech in such beautiful manner that it left most of us spellbound,  inspiration about him was that he had joined
the club when he had stuttering and his technique was simple  “go out and talk to people”.

I was next to
take on stage, stage doesn’t frighten me as I have been on it so many times but
today I did falter, I started in hurry and ended up stuttering, hence I tried
again, and was able to finish my introduction I used the most fillers than
anybody else in that gathering. Ironically today was my 3rd speech
as well and I was confident when I was sitting in audience but on that day
stage charm continued to elude me and I ended up using fillers and helping
words, although my content of speech was good my delivery could have been
better.
Murali was the
last one to hit the stage, he reached late to meeting but he had got the gist
of our meeting agenda and he too began his introduction with his prepared notes
and did well to finish in grandeur.

Today everyone
spoke so much that we took 3 hours to complete introduction. Power of
“first write then talk”, Gathering all thoughts on paper are vital for
effective communication. We all learned an important lesion that we cannot
control most of things in life, but what we can control , we need to …….

Attendees:
Abhinav, Jeetu, Upasana, Tanoy, Chandan, Sairam, Biju, Murali, our beloved coordinator
Dinesh Singh and your narrator Pavan

Karthik could not be physically present but he attended the meeting through Skype!! 

Write-up by Pawan.
for any queries please mail to dinesh.daredevil@gmail.com

Post Author: lashdinesh

4 thoughts on “First Write then Talk

    admin

    (May 17, 2012 - 5:30 am)

    Wow "First Write then Talk"
    This concept is really nice.
    I will also suggest in Hyd SHG meetings. It will surely help us.

    Great Going.
    With Regards.

    admin

    (May 17, 2012 - 8:19 am)

    Wow! Three hours for introductions. Now all of you must be knowing each other really well 🙂

    Sachin

    (May 17, 2012 - 4:13 pm)

    Yes- writing is a very good intellectual discipline. It teaches you how to think LOGICALLY. That done, saying it out, becomes so much easier. This is why TISA insists- that you have a "RIGHT" (write) to HEALTH..

    Jitu

    (May 17, 2012 - 5:35 pm)

    Hi All,
    Dinesh had planned for this prepared speech from last month ,he sent to mail to many people but no one prepared for speech ,after that he tried this new technique ……
    WRITE & TALK Really He is doing great job for US .We are lucky being part of SHG Bangalore .

    *****Have a Blessed LIFE all of YOU *****

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