From time to time I will be posting pages from my blog http://mystammer.blogspot.com/ which I find a little more useful than the crap I usually post on my blog.As J.P. sir put it”u never know , ur thoughts may change someone’s life”.So only the best for Tisa from my blog !!!!(but do read my lesser works on my blog as well)
Imagine a scenario !!! A man comes to a hospital complaining about chest pains.The doctor instantaneously calls for emergency and performs a heart surgery and the man is not able to make it.Later it was discovered that the man had a minor indigestion .
So what was the mistake of the doctor ?????He sprung into action without recognizing the problem and this led to a disaster.!!!!
So,as a pws,do you know what is your problem which you are trying to solve or are you just springing into action.You will probably be saying-“Duh!!! I know what my problem is !! I stammer !!!”But this is like saying that a person suffering from a heart cancer has a disease. This is one of the reasons why speech therapies fail .They treat every pws alike and apply the same techniques with everyone.I believe every pws stammer is different and the emotions involved with it are also different. Hence,a technique that works for one pws may not work with the other.
Now how to recognize your problem ??? Its simple.Take a pen and paper and write down the habits and things about your thinking that you want to change !!! Dont hurry,do take your time.
Here’s a list of my behaviours and emotions:
1)I always block silently to hide my stutter
2)I close my eyes sometimes when stuttering
3)I want to speak everything in one go.I think pausing means disfluency
4)I try to force through a block when I know it only worsens the situation
5)I stutter,like,7-8 times in a day but think about it an awful lot.
6)I judge myself too much from the eyes of others
Though I have tried to include everything in this list,but still there can be something missing which I am not aware of..So whats the advantage of preparing the list.First,you recognize what your real problem is .Second,by doing this,you have divided a once seemingly big problem called stammering into many small parts and you can start concentrating on these parts individually and hence start dismantling your stammer.So,make your list and recognize your problem.Take the first step required !!!!!
Ps-I wont force you to post your list on this blog,but if you do,you will automatically take another important step-Acceptance in front of the whole world !!!You may not be ready now(and its okay),but when you are,my blog is always there for you !!!!
As always,your comments are most welcome and if you want to send any contribution or contact me,my e-mail id is kathuria.dhruva@gmail.com
7 thoughts on “Recognition-Your first step to a better life !!!!”
admin
(February 25, 2011 - 5:17 pm)Yes Dhruv, Writing down and dividing the challenge into smaller pieces can do wonders! And you can always sign ur posts with ur blog's url, so that interested ppl can follow u! Keep writing and keep exploring..
Sachin
(February 25, 2011 - 5:47 pm)Yes Dhruva- you are right! But for most people this requires a little bit too much courage, I am afraid..:-(
लेकिन डर के आगे जीत है- है ना?
Ashutosh
(February 26, 2011 - 3:31 am)This comment is about the video, especially, Usha Pillai's thoughts about stammering. It can be "eradicated", "it's all in the mind", "it's all about confidence". Wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Any trained speech therapist will tell you, that these attempts to simplify the problem to this absurd level, leads to nothing but a widespread misunderstanding of the ailment. It can be managed as an adult stammerer but eradicated, perhaps
not. Does it reflect confidence? At times, but I've seen loads of people who are confident and still stammer. This sort of well-intended, yet ignorant and misunderstood advocacy is the bane of public perception about stammering. People should state scientific sources, not their "opinions". I'm a stammerer myself, btw.
admin
(February 26, 2011 - 5:29 am)@Sachin Sir-I know it is difficult to accept in front of everyone,even writing it down on paper is difficult for many,but I always hope for the best !!!! And Once you do it,its not just about the win,its also how awesome you feel everyday and repent why you wasted so many years of your life brooding !!!!
Sachin
(February 27, 2011 - 6:09 am)@Ashutosh
You are right and this is why at the end of the documentary TISA specifies- that stammering has a neurobiological basis inherited through genes…
We have to correct centuries of misconception and- at times- biases against "invisible disabilities": this is why it is important that PWS speak out and speak up publicly- as the participants in the documentary did…Bravo!
@Dhruva
There is a Hindi saying: whenever your eyes open, the change (morning) has begun! Have no regrets..
admin
(February 27, 2011 - 4:02 pm)very thoughtful of you Dhruv. keep writing.
admin
(February 28, 2011 - 5:21 am)Nice write up. Keep it up!
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